Grief can be like stargazing on a dark, summer night. How is that, you ask?
Just ask Fyodor Dostoyevsky, the author of the literary masterpiece, Crime and Punishment. In that book he reveals the grand paradox of grief in his famous quote:
“The darker the night, the brighter the stars,
The deeper the grief, the closer is God!”
Dostoyevsky certainly understood a sacred secret. Grief is like stargazing; the darkest nights of pain illuminate the brightest stars of God’s grace radiating in our lives. Yes, grief has this way of bringing us closer to the heart of God.
Similarly, I shared in my last post that grief can be a path to resting more fully in the embrace of God’s grace. But now it begs the question: how do we get there? How do you and I allow grief to lead us to God’s grace?
I believe it begins with us seeing grief like a fork in the road. Grief presents us with two paths leading to two different destinations. One path is bitterness. It leads to despair. The other path is blessing. It leads to joy. This joy results from our choice to trust in the Father’s love. Indeed, it’s a choice: a surrender of our sadness into the gracious arms of our Abba Father.
So whenever we face grief, you and I are faced with a choice. Will we choose bitterness or blessing?
I face this choice nearly every day in my ongoing grief with an absent father. Every day I have to ask myself: Will I choose to receive the blessing of my Father’s love, or will I stumble down the broken path of bitterness?
Your grief presents you with the same choice, friend. Let me encourage you to resist the temptation to be overcome by bitterness. Instead, be overcome by the blessing of the Father’s love. Keep trusting in the Father’s faithfulness through every step of your journey with grief. Soak in His Word, and sink into His strength. And you will be anchored in the Father’s love regardless of the chaotic circumstances swirling around you.
Here’s the precious promise to ponder about grief. Soon you and I are going to look back on our journeys with grief, and discover a sacred secret. Our darkest night of grief has illuminated the brightest, starry expanse of God’s grace radiating in our lives.
Indeed, we’ll discover that grief is really like stargazing. So, let’s keep stargazing, friend. Let’s keep entrusting our grief to our Father, and watch for all the glimpses of grace He wants to radiate in us and through us as we stay anchored in His love.
Scripture to Savor: “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18
Reflect and Respond: How can you choose the path of blessing in your journey with grief? Where are you already seeing how grief has led you to more of God’s grace?